There’s a fairly popular saying that goes thus: “There’s two kinds of people; those who ‘talk’, and those who ‘do’.”
Makes sense on a number of levels right? Right. Unsurprisingly I don’t completely agree with it. As a christian, my Bible tells me I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, so doing is not a problem, and as you have probably figured out by now, I’m pretty good at talking too.
Am I needling at the “doers”? No. It’s however been made to look like the “doers” are the superheroes. The men of action, the ones on the frontline. And they are, of course they are, but nobody just gets up and begins to do just for the sake of it. There’s a process, and the successful “doers” are intelligent and thorough thinkers.
Here’s where it’s different for me; I personally believe the world is occupied with “Talkers and Thinkers” and yes the order in which they appear is very important. There are “Talkers and Thinkers” and there are “Thinkers and Talkers”.
Have you ever met somebody for the first time (or it doesn’t even have to be someone new, it could be an old friend even) and when they open their mouths to talk you’re like, “What?! Na man, he couldn’t have said that!” Or “Oh dear! Did she just say that? What on earth was she thinking?”
Those people fall into the “Talkers and Thinkers” category.
It’s pretty simple, these people usually don’t process whatever it is they sputter out. They just “go with it”. Ok so they’ll tell you they’re “just being blunt” or “they’re speaking their minds” or “telling it as they see it” etc. Bottomline is for the most part, they just talk. The thinking comes after.
Not everything has to said, and if it must be said, it doesn’t have to be said the way you’re thinking it for your point to be passed across.
I have this Neighbour and when she hits full gear – especially when her kids have run foul of her instructions – her language gets very colorful (I mean sailor-language colorful), she can be heard all the way in my living room from right across the fence.
My grandma – bless her soul – on the other hand had a habit of lowering her voice when she wanted to give you a verbal thrashing.
Thinkers and Talkers
Then there are those whom you have a conversation with and they leave you with the lasting impression that you’ve just met a “beautiful mind”. Regardless of how they look.
In fact for the bulk of that conversation, you probably weren’t even paying close attention, because at a point all that is going through your head is “Wow. There’s some serious brainpower underneath all that hair!”
Here’s an interesting titbit about these kind of people; sometimes they had absolutely no knowledge of the topic you just brought up, but because they’ve trained themselves to process FIRST, they’ll be able to contribute substance, even if it’s little. The Bible exhorts us to be like these people in James 1:19 “be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger” (paraphrased)
There’s a certain romanticism about freedom of expression, especially through speech and a lot of the time we’re at pains to exercise this freedom without tact. Words for me are like the malaria parasite: plasmodium; they settle in and sometimes you feel the effect immediately and succumb to malaria, and at other times you don’t until your body’s defences are down. Weird analogy, I know. But when you really think about it, it works.
While there will always be those who run their gamut of feelings before they’ve processed the possible effects (because well, the world will be boring without variety, am I right?) It doesn’t hurt every once in a while to think through if only for a few seconds before the mandibles begin to move.
So. Which category do you find yourself?
Ariel Ugorji identifies himself as a mild insomniac, geek, nerd, an audiophile, an avid music lover, Liverpool Fan and an unashamed Christian; with more often than not a completely different point of view on the world and a love for sensible arguments. He Resides in Warri, Nigeria; the land of the sharp and the brave.
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