West African black soap also known as Ose Dudu is made from the ash from cocoa pods, plantain and palm barks and is often combined with natural ingredients such as honey, lime, shea butter, palm kernel oil, coconut oil etc to increase it’s moisturizing properties.

Produced in West Africa (mainly Nigeria and Ghana), the black soap is created by harvesting palm leaves, cocoa pods, shea and plantain trees barks. This mixture is then roasted at a constant temperature, then mixed with oils such as coconut or palm and other ingredients such as honey etc depending on the formulation. The product is then poured into soap tins and left to set naturally for about two weeks.

Though this product is relatively cheap, it has been proven to have amazing benefits from people who swear by it.

Here are 6 natural reasons to choose the West African black soap:


1. The West African black soap works wonders by drying out acne and pimples and speeding up the skin’s healing process.
2. The natural ingredients contained in the soap such as honey and aloe vera increases it’s anti aging properties by fading the appearance of skin discolorations and fine lines.
3. Many naturalistas swear by black soap as an alternative to clarifying shampoo.
4. The plantain and cocoa ash formulation of this product helps in skin exfoliation and deep cleansing
5. It fades discoloration and dark spots. Visible improvement can be seen within a month of using the West African Black Soap.
6. It soothes and heals skin conditions such as psoriasis, eczema and is great for sensitive skin.

Though we have listed six amazing benefits of using the West African black soap, there were some product problems raised. We have got some solutions.


Cons and Solutions
1. Black soap is pretty drying and may not be suitable for constant use by individuals with drier skin types.
Make sure you choose a formulation that only contains moisturizing ingredients such as shea butter, honey etc and stay away from those that contain citrus extracts.

2. It has a strong smell which many may find unpleasant.

If you find out that you do not like the smell of the current black soap you use, try other brands. You might just find what you like.

3. It melts easily and may become messy over time due to the black color.
This problem can be solved by storing the soap in a container to curb waste and minimize messiness.

It’s no news that products which contain more natural ingredients are better for our skin and hair in the long run. The West African black soap definitely falls into this category of healthy beauty products and is highly recommended by the Losbeauty team.

Do you have any experiences with the black soap? Please share.


CHEF 26 by Ojeiwa Ojeabu Omo- Episode 16


“Yes Kay, I know her, we were best friends in high school. I am so sorry that I didn’t tell you.” Cynthia answered in a very humble tone, her eyes were staring at the floor, and she couldn’t look at Kaima’s face because there were flames of fury burning brightly in her eyes.

“There is no need for that, I trusted you with my feelings for Dre, and then I find out that you know Lola, and you never thought to mention it?!” Kaima replied with anger and disgust while storming out.

“I was only protecting you.” Cynthia added sadly.

“Protecting me Cynthia Okafor?! Really? You are such a psycho, you know that right!” Kaima Replied.

Cynthia gasped as Kaima’s words sank in. It wasn’t that Kaima just called her a psycho because they playfully used such words on themselves, but the fact that Kaima took time out to yell out her full name.

Kaima reached the door of the living room, opened it, stormed out and banged the door very hard; the noise it made caused some nosy neighbour to creep out of their apartment, watching for the next big thing to excite their evening. Scandals were a norm in this particular building.

Kaima stepped out of the elevator and walked briskly towards the exit, she fought the tears that were welling in her eyes, as a zillion thoughts raced through her mind with the dominant thought being betrayal. In quick strides she was out of the luxury estate. It was 11pm and she debated what to do for a second, there were two options to ponder; option one would be to go back home or two she could stay at a hotel and get to the office from there. She chose the latter and hailed a cab.

20 minutes later she lodged in a 4-star hotel called ‘Premise’. A porter helped her with her light luggage; as she stepped into the room she was assigned. She relieved the porter of her luggage, gave him a quick tip and closed the door when he left. The room was painted white and was well illuminated which didn’t please Kaima. Getting up from the bed, she walked towards one of the walls and found the light switch, pressed it and the room was engulfed in darkness, “more like it” she said.

A thought suddenly occurred to her, she moved in the direction of her luggage, she opened her bag and retrieved her I-pod. She paused for some seconds then started to fiddle with the gadget, turning it on then clicking on the playlist titled ‘sad songs’. A list of songs appeared, and continued to scroll till she found the song she was looking for; ‘Set fire to the rain’ by Adele.

She suddenly felt the need for some alcohol and reached for the bedside phone assigned to her room, finding the hotel directory, she dialed the room service number and placed an order for a bottle of Baileys and chicken salad. Some minutes later, her order arrived.

“Room service” a soft female voice responded. Kaima marched towards the door, opened it and made way for the delivery of her order. The female hotel personnel gave her a curt nod and escaped silently. Kaima closed the door and made herself more at home by pouring the Baileys into a glass cup and adding some ice. She carefully arranged the chicken salad, the Baileys, the bucket of ice and the glass cup half filled with baileys and ice on the tray and strolled lazily back to the bed, where she ate like a hungry lion and downed the liquor slowly. After eating, she moved the tray and the empty plate of food to the other side of the bed, dropping it on the floor, she put the bottle of Baileys on the floor beside the tray, but retained the glass cup in her hand, the bottle of baileys was now half full. She looked at her I-pod again, scrolling down then stopped at ‘Clown’ by Emele Sande, Kaima sighed as a half smile spread on her face, clicked on that and put it on repeat.

She gulped some more Baileys, emptying the cup in the process. The lyrics of the song she was listening to caused her to recollect the events that had taken place in Cynthia’s apartment some hours ago,she tried to hold the tears back, but when the chorus of the song drummed in her eyes, the tears fell freely like rain from the sky. A couple of minutes later she fell asleep with her I-pod still playing the same song.


Cynthia wasn’t happy either. She was mostly shocked at how Kaima over reacted, or had she? Just then her phone rang; she took the call.

“Hi Lolo.” Cynthia answered

“Hey ‘Cyndy Lauper’, what’s wrong?, I called you earlier but you did not pick up. Are u okay?” Lola questioned.

“Yea, I am but Kaima just found out that I knew you today. Wasn’t a pretty sight.” Cynthia replied.

“So? How does that change anything?”Lola asked sounding very confused.

“Kaima knows that we are friends and she is not happy that I kept that piece of information from her; she says she never wants to see me again.” Cynthia added, fighting a great urge to smoke for some reason which was weird because she had never smoked a day in her life.

“Did you tell her about our plan?” Lola asked

“She was quite emotional while leaving, couldn’t muster up the courage to tell her then.” Cynthia replied.

“Cheer up ‘Cyndy Lauper’, there is something I need to show you.” Lola said.

“Good or Bad?” Cynthia asked.

“You would have to make that judgement call yourself.” Lola replied.

Cynthia didn’t like the feeling. Uncertainty was never her forte.

…….to be continued

Genre: Nigerian Romance/ Fiction

Do you think Kaima overreacted after finding out that Cynthia knew Lola?



I recently stumbled on a relatively new tv series with same title this topic and as you can imagine, it got me thinking.

Traditionally a mistress is a “kept woman” by a married man – whom his wife (usually) doesn’t know about.

There are however instances where the wife is aware of the mistress’ existence and is okay with it (I will explore this later) – for the man’s sexual satisfaction; He then pays her bills, takes care of her, you get the idea. “Runs” girls almost always fall into this category (something we’re all familiar with)

I’ve always imagined what founded the whole phenomena of the “mistress” but didn’t give it serious thought until very recently. So after a few days of thinking and research I arrived at a few things.

I will approach this from the male point of view since, we’re talking about mistresses, and will be addressing the ladies.


First off, let me dispel the common misconception that men are “dogs” or “randy” or we want to jump on anything we see in two legs and a skirt. Women are just as promiscuous as men can be and a hell of a lot sneakier at it. So when I hear ladies use this to describe a man or men who cheated, in most cases I see ladies who refuse to take their share of the blame because when looked at critically you make it a hell of a lot easier for him to cheat than it ordinarily should be.

Am I laying the blame at the feet of the women? No! It takes two to cheat, I’m just saying don’t go around on your high horse when you’re partially at fault.

At some point you’ve asked yourself what exactly is this guy seeing in this other woman that he isn’t seeing in you? Or what does she have to offer that you haven’t brought to the table?
I’ve thought of a few things. Before we go on please remember this; as a wife you’re a superwoman.

You are Wonder Woman, the real MVP

It’s that simple. Your husband expects it, if you have kids, to them you’re the true Wonder Woman. God grants a special measure of grace to the wife. So you need to embrace it and live like it, why? Because some of the things I’m about to say will rile up some women and have them thinking why they should have to do all these when they’ve got the man already?

FYI, this is the kind of thinking that has got you in this position in the first place.


Back to what we were saying; here are some lessons to learn from successful mistresses.

1. Initiate Sexual Contact: This is basic really. Men pursue, naturally, but we also love being found desirable. You think all those work outs are just to look buff or impress our friends? They’re for YOU the wife to notice AND appreciate. When another woman begins to appreciate it, well, we’re only human.

And if he doesn’t work out or doesn’t look like Gerard Butler in 300; KINDLY ( I say kindly because some women go about this by insulting the man’s ego ) suggest it if that kind of thing turns you on and he will be pumping weights the next day.

2. Show Interest in A Man’s Hobbies
Is he into football or any other form of sports? Most men are. It doesn’t hurt to at the very least know the name of the team he supports. You don’t have to love it like he does, just show genuine interest ( we usually know when you’re faking interest, even then it may not matter much because at least you tried ). But genuine interest is better because you’ll both have a common ground and something to draw you closer.

3. Nice:
Testosterone dictates that we be macho and so we try to hide our feelings as much as possible and internalise everything. The important thing to note however is that we DO have feelings and we certainly appreciate it when you say nice things to us and use terms of endearment and you say such nice things in soft voices etc. Sounds corny right? Yeah, well,this is exactly what the other woman is doing. A brother wants to come home and his wife is nice to him, not going all Nikita on his ears when he hasn’t even recovered from work.

4. Know When to Shut IT!
Nothing pisses a man off more than a woman that nags. My goodness, it is annoying. You have got to know when to let a man off easy. We don’t feel the need to say everything we are feeling like ladies so when you push, we retreat.

Also, resist complaining to him about things he can do nothing about. Not everything you think as a woman needs to be said out loud to your husband. Do the bulk of your complaining to God. He knows, understands, and is able to effect change when your husband doesn’t, won’t , or can’t. If you need to vent to or unload upon another human being, call or meet with a trusted friend, and give your man’s ears a darn break.


5. Dress and Look Sexy:
Men are visual and I cannot count how many times I have said this. Some women get married and allow themselves to fall all over the place because, well, they’ve got the man now so……. Anyway, you can bet top dollar that his mistress is investing in looking and smelling and feeling good and thus keeping his attention. I’m not saying do it every time, because it can be difficult especially when you’ve got kids, but every once in a while remind him you’re – for lack of a better word – HOT🔥🔥🔥.

6. Know What is Going on at Work:
It’s interesting how many wives have no idea what is going on with their husbands at work. For better or for worse, many men define themselves according to what they do for a living.
Wives should know how that part of their man’s life is progressing.

7. Buy Gifts (sometimes):
Relationships are give and take. Imagine how you felt when your man bought something for you? We love your reactions when we hand you gifts, but also appreciate it when you return the favor (sometimes). It means you see us, we’re not just atm machines to you.

8. COOK!:
I don’t know how else to emphasise this. Keep your man coming back to your kitchen. The grief you’ll save yourself by doing this is immeasurable.


In some exceptional cases, there are women whose husbands have mistresses and they seem to be totally fine with them. I honestly have nothing to say about such situations. I personally don’t know many ladies who will be willing to share their men with other women.

In conclusion and most importantly, wives pray for your husbands. Because despite the marital vows, we’re flesh and blood and can make mistakes. In the world we live in marital faithfulness is impossible without God’s grace, having only touched on the physical aspect.

There are situations where mistresses have exerted spiritual influence over husbands (juju) And no amount of cooking or compliments or attention or gifts will open his eyes.
In such cases, only God can deliver.

Ariel Ugorji


Runs girl: (Nigerian Term) a young lady/woman who exchanges sexual favors for money from a sugar daddy to keep up a pretentious life style.

Juju: an object venerated superstitiously and used as a fetish or amulet by tribal peoples of West Africa.

Ariel Ugorji identifies himself as a mild insomniac, geek, nerd, an audiophile, an avid music lover, Liverpool Fan and an unashamed Christian; with more often than not a completely different point of view on the world and a love for sensible arguments. He Resides in Warri, Nigeria; the land of the sharp and the brave.

To view more of his write ups, please visit his BLOG. You can also share your views with him on twitter @arielugorji.

Do you share in the authors thoughts that desire is never enough to keep a relationship? Please share your thoughts.